November 10, 2010
(Trenton, NJ) How many people living in predominately Black inner cities were surprised by number of births to Black, unwed mothers in 2008? Not many. A new government study reports 72% of all births of Black children that year were to single mothers. The number for the entire nation was 41%. Various accounting for Our Town nearly mirrored that Black birth rate a year ago. What was once phenomenon -and got a woman sent “down South” a few generations ago, is now, by all visual and statistical accounts, normative culture. To many, this one statistic draws a figurative moustache and missing teeth on that picture of the First Family; a Black man, leader of the most powerful nation in the free world, his wife and children, with whom he lives, UNDER THE SAME ROOF. The anomaly has reached the other polar now. Also in 2008, 53% of all Hispanic births were to single mothers. Add this number to the another recently-published study showing Black males performing far below their white counterparts in reading and math, and you will understand why urban municipalities across the country are not thinking twice about reallocating dollars from education and recreation to the construction of correctional facilities. Train the social microscope even closer to the issue; you see, in most cases, the woman taking care of the children, the father possibly playing no significant role in the raising of his seed, as they say.
Educators use words like “abysmal” and “self-fulfilling prophecy” when describing how the single parent household, and parents’ diminishing role in the formal learning environment, are intertwined. They hope new attention to this issue, which has grown exponentially with each generation, will shine a brighter light on how the absence of a parent (the father, in most cases) affects scholastic growth. Teachers, principals, counselors, and social workers remind parents that students who come from single parent homes are more likely to perform poorly in school, become involved in drugs, go to jail, and become one half of the team that conceives an illegitimate child. Duh-uh. Very few parents, absent, present or otherwise, are heeding the advice. Once a child falls behind, then sees there is no one in the home environment to help with homework, monitor progress (or lack thereof), or meet with teachers and counselors to find the best learning path for the child, then he or she is left to educate themselves. Such an effort by far too many Trenton Public School students is witnessed by teachers; that is, the student navigating the internet, via a classroom computer, toward everything but a learning resource. It doesn’t happen often. Why? Because the necessary guidance and re-enforcement in the home environment, on which teachers and school districts relied for generations, is disappearing. That change in the social dynamic, among others, is why Dr. Desmon Daniel, a former school administrator and author, feels an overhaul in how we educate is desperately needed. Regardless of economic background, Daniel says being educated is “in and of itself, a challenge”. So add to that challenge the myriad of emotions and issues that come with any kind of dysfunction resulting from one or both parents not being around, for whatever reason, then multiply that by at least 10 students in a classroom, from K to 12, then you can begin to understand the day of a teacher and administrator in the urban school setting. Daniel, and all the teachers who began their careers in the 80’s and 90’s, had to become teacher/surrogates. Refer to the post, titled “Finally, A Teacher Talks” (http://trentonschools.tumblr.com/post/499187976/finally-a-teacher-talks), to see how public school educators in This City deal with various dysfunctions that make it into the classroom.
Let’s take this deeper. How about the way some students view the Black male teacher who is in such demand these days? The education establishment wants this specific employee to teach and act as a model for, primarily, one group of students, someone that student will see and say, “I want to be like that man, not the huddled, hoodied masses -many of them absent fathers, through which I walk on the way to and from school each day.” Eric Felix, a teacher in the New Orleans Public School system more than 20 years, wishes it was that easy. He challenges us to think of some of the things “the momma, grandmamma, and everyone else” is saying about that Black male who is not in these children’s’ lives. Felix says many Black students “come into the classroom with a preconceived image of me because of what they hear about men who look like me”. Felix senses jealously in some students who have no father or prominent male role model because, he says, “in me, they see some qualities that their father may be lacking, so they often enter the class angry at me.” Interviews with some students who come from home with no father reveal their anger manifests itself in the refusal to participate in class and disruption. Dr. Daniel says the novice teacher interprets the behaviors as they are titled, but the seasoned teacher identifies them as cries for attention or prodding to do what’s right which they may not be receiving from the “first teachers” (parents) in the “first classroom” (home environment). Felix adds that the media contributes a great deal to that “picture” students build in their minds of a father which they subconsciously hold next to the reality that is what they hear and see of their own dads. Daniel, Felix, and most teachers you talk to about this issue admit there was no training in the classroom, or during student teaching to prepare them to break this particular barrier. “We weren’t hired or trained to be mom, dad or social worker”, says one public school teacher in Our Town, “but I find myself addressing students’ problems the way a parent would, and that’s because you can tell when the child isn’t getting help in his or her studies, or general attention that parents, especially fathers, give their children.”
And to think, these are the numbers from 2008. After all the studies that show its importance, news specials that highlight the cause and negative effects of so many single parent households, regardless of the socio-economic climate, you can count on another wave of students headed to school without that complete training, modeling, love and attention children are afforded when raised by both parents.
Skip Harrison is a writer, educator and parent residing in Trenton, New Jersey